Why I can’t always be miserable all the time

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. – Philippians 4:8

The nature of blogging being what it is, traffic generally increases when I blog about controversial topics or other issues that evoke a lot of anger out of me.  Once it’s out of my system I tend to move on, although sometimes I’ll revisit the same topic whenever I’m in the mood for further reflection, or venting.  Mostly venting.

What I DON’T do is endlessly dwell on a particular topic that easily evokes contention and strife every minute of every hour of every day, forever and ever, amen.  I don’t know how people can do that and not go loopy.  For those of you familiar with the manosphere/red pill community (I use them as an example because many of my readers hail from there), their whole world revolves around one subject to which they blog endlessly in a never-ending stream of anger and indignation.  Much of it justified to be sure, but at some point I’m wondering where people manage the stamina to be able to peddle the same rehashed material day after day after day, without getting tired of it all.   Yes, men suck, women suck, the world sucks.  Get on with it already.

You hear enough bad stories in the news about wars, governments gone rogue, of societies run amuck and rampant with broken marriages, failed relationships, life ending divorces, that it becomes too easy to dwell on all the negative and forget that God encourages us to dwell on those things that are good and pure instead.  Like you know, Him, and all the things that He created.

But to be fair, I think for the types who endlessly focus on a singular topic, blogging is something that they DO, while for me blogging is a REFLECTION of who I am as a person, and that means covering a myriad of topics that represents the broad spectrum of my personality.  I realize this might make it harder to draw a consistent audience because I won’t constantly cover the subjects they may be passionately interested about, but so what.  I’d like to think my little place on the web can serve as a place of respite and encouragement, a reminder to people not to take themselves TOO seriously and remember that God is still ultimately in control.

Life serves up a lot of headaches, agony, frustration and utter wickedness that stems from many different sources.  While we can still be mindful of these things, and where necessary confront them, I’m also reminded of what the LORD said:  “Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.”

In other words, we have enough to deal with today to concern ourselves with tomorrow, so there’s no point in stressing out about the things that are ultimately beyond our control.

There are a lot of frustrated people out there, myself included, who get agitated over the state of affairs today, wailing and griping about a lack of marital prospects (or bliss), lack of employment opportunities, or living in less than ideal circumstances.  Ok then, how many of us think we have it so bad that we’d rather trade places with this guy:

Elephant Man wearing a suit (Joseph Merrick)

You know, the same man who died of asphyxia simply because he wanted to sleep the same way normal people did.  Would you rather have HIS life?

So, a little perspective please.  I personally need to remind myself every now and then that when I wail over having no shoes, there are people out there who have no feet.

This is why I can’t always be miserable.  I still have my long seasons of despair and despondency, but when I start to focus on the good, even something as mundane as the falling leaves of autumn, I find it actually takes a concerted amount of energy to go back to being miserable again.  Being filled and blessed with the wonders of God’s creation has this effect of removing much of the toxicity out of our lives that man in his fallen state created.  Happiness I realized is not merely a state of mind; it’s also a choice.  That’s why Dennis Prager had it right: we really do have a moral obligation to be happy.  Not a fake smile or faux happiness mind you, but a shifting of perspective.  Too many wait until they FEEL happy to BE happy, but the natural order is that our actions should dictate our feelings, not that our feelings dictate our actions.

Of course that doesn’t mean I can ALWAYS be happy ALL the time anymore than I can always be miserable all the time.  There is a time for everything after all, for every purpose under heaven.  Such is the beauty and variety of life.

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8 Responses to Why I can’t always be miserable all the time

  1. Rubyam September 6, 2013 at 5:52 PM #

    Plus. There is always timtams

    • Frank Swift September 6, 2013 at 5:55 PM #

      Except I still can’t get them Timmy Tammys locally. :-P

  2. Elspeth September 6, 2013 at 6:12 PM #

    Frank! I just talked about this on my blog, but with a lot more girlishness and feminine flair:

    http://lovingintheruins.wordpress.com/2013/09/06/why-so-personal/

    • Frank Swift September 6, 2013 at 6:20 PM #

      Elspeth, whoa, it’s like we’re in perfect sync today.

      Bill and Ted go WHOA

  3. loischwarz September 6, 2013 at 7:04 PM #

    “Here, Here”, … When I sit down to watch the television, I am through with the day. I tend to want to watch something that makes me smile… xxxooo

    • Frank Swift September 6, 2013 at 7:05 PM #

      Is that why you’re always watching me? ;)

  4. Anja September 7, 2013 at 9:48 AM #

    Well said! We must have been placed in this horrible, black (sarcasm off) world for a reason, after all. I mean, it’s bad, yes, but if it weren’t what would be the point of us being here? If anybody can make sense of what I’ve just said…

    • Frank Swift September 7, 2013 at 12:57 PM #

      Maybe the point is to come up with the perfect pumpkin spice tea recipe. ;-)

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