Been having a discussion with one of my blog commenters that had me thinking about soulmates. I don’t believe in the idea that there is only ONE TRUE SOULMATE out there for every one of us, but as a Christian I do believe there are certain people that God means for us to be with.
There are several examples in Scripture showing us that God does indeed play a role at times in bringing man and woman together, beginning with Eve: “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. – Mark 10:9″
From there, we see God either guiding others, such as Abraham’s chief servant to find a wife for Isaac (Genesis 24) and even instructing one of his prophets to marry a former adulteress (Hosea 3). Proverbs also describes a prudent wife being from the LORD as well. (Proverbs 19:14)
In other examples we can see where God does the inverse, telling us who NOT to marry. Whether it’s who to marry or who not, there’s enough biblical evidence to show that He doesn’t sit idly by while we blindly grope in the dark looking for THE ONE.
At the same time though, I also believe it’s possible to reject God’s providence and counsel, and just marry whoever you please.
Which leads me to the obvious question: does this mean whoever God had in mind for me might have already rejected me, or chose not to wait and is now married to someone else?
The funny thing is I was watching a Once Upon a Time episode (yes I know, but I can’t stop) where precisely that scenario took place: a fairy guided a woman to her soulmate, but she chose not to go through with the introduction and ran away instead. Later on, the same fairy tells her how selfish her act was. Perplexed, she asks the fairy how it could have been considered selfish. “Because you didn’t just ruin your life,” the fairy says. “You ruined his as well.”
Makes you wonder. Although considering the omnipotent nature of our Creator, it’s also wholly possible that He would foresee this rejection and pair us with someone He knows WOULDN’T reject us. Where His providence begins and our free will ultimately begins is always going to be something of a mystery.
One thing I do know for sure, it’s probably the hardest thing ever for those unmarried men and women to fully trust God to bring someone in their lives as they continue to get older while everyone around them pairs up, despite so much of it being a facade. (That happy go lucky couple you just saw sucking face at Starbucks will more than likely divorce or call it splits down the road.) I understand though why so many just throw up their hands and marry the first person they find that pays any attention to them. But I’ve seen how the often disastrous consequence of doing that can seriously ruin people’s lives, and sometimes not just their lives, but the lives of those who had nothing to do with the relationship. I don’t want to be one of those people, so I’m holding out for as long as I can.