Dating new people is fun and exciting. It’s also likely to cause even the most rational, level-headed people to make really dumb decisions. Don’t worry, though. Your brain is supposed to do that. Sort of. Scientifically speaking, human attraction is still a pretty big mystery. (Source Link)
The article also mentions emotional intelligence as a stopgap against making bad decisions while awash in goo-goo feelings (or panic attacks, depending on what spectrum of the emotional prism you’re dancing around here).
I wonder how our decision making process is affected after the feelings dissipate. What do you do at that moment when the bloom comes off the rose? When Elvis has left the building? When the cheese has slid off the cracker? When the pizza was delivered without the pepperoni? When the Broncos are playing without Peyton?
Do I decide then that the feelings I had were never real to begin with? Or maybe perhaps they WERE real, but they needed a foundation to stand on in order to be reignited again, becoming stronger and more powerful over time? I always likened relationships to a fire, first starting with that initial “spark”, but a spark that can die off quickly if you haven’t added kindle to keep it going, and then finally and slowly, the logs so the fire can grow and sustain itself in a slow burn. After the relatively difficult effort to build a fire after you’ve created that spark, it becomes much easier afterward to keep it alive, as long as you toss in an occasional log or two.
Seems simplistic, but it rings true to me.