Archive | July, 2013

Study says introverts are miserable, near suicidal dweeb-balls of walking death and despair unless they start acting more like extroverts

Ok, I’m embellishing it a bit, but probably not by all that much:

Extroverts, those outgoing, gregarious types who wear their personalities on their sleeve, are generally happier, studies show. Some research also has found that introverts, who are more withdrawn in nature, will feel a greater sense of happiness if they act extroverted. (Source Link)

Yeah I have a word for those happy go lucky gregarious and fabulous extroverts who just feel this compulsive need to shower the world with their hip hip happiness:  GO SCRATCH.

I don’t believe introverts as a whole are less happy.  They just don’t feel the need to demonstrate this every minute of every hour of every day to everyone within a 500 mile radius.

There’s one element of this study that seems to be particularly absent too: the failure to recognize that introverts can in fact be naturally extroverted: when it comes to people they already know and are already comfortable being with.  We value real connections that are sincere and meaningful.  That’s why I can’t abide by being in a crowd full of people I don’t know well and haven’t had the time to form meaningful bonds with.  Somehow the friendliness, the cheerfulness and happiness feels fake without it.

And being surrounded by people who are acting fake, being fake, and fake-smiling at you until you leave the room, at which point the gossip about your hairstyle and choice of Walmart brand flannel starts to fly fast and furious… yeah… doesn’t exactly strike me as an exercise in true happiness.  I’ll just go read a book, thank you very much.

That’s another thing, the presumption that extroverts are happier, when the real truth is that they merely LOOK happier, whereas an introvert might look despondent and depressed when he’s at home, in his mind he’s really like:

Disco Dancing Pair

It’s Saturday night and I’m staying in!

So this idea that we have to play a role (the role of an extrovert) in order to experience more happiness doesn’t really wash.  There is a danger of course of becoming a complete social recluse, but if you already have an inner circle of best friends and a loving family, what else do you need, really?

I’m feeling crabby today…

Came across this devotional today that I remember reading before, but still bears repeating:

THE HERMIT CRAB

Hermit Crab

Seriously, get off my sand.

A lesson from nature reveals what happens when we trade the good fight for an easier way and walk away from our struggle. I recently read a biologist’s study on crabs, creatures that live in a rough, dangerous environment among jagged rocks. Crabs are dashed about daily by waves and attacked on every side by creatures from deeper waters. They battle continually to protect themselves, and over time they develop a strong shell and powerful instincts for survival.

Amazingly, some in the crab family give up the struggle for life. Searching for a safe haven, they take up residence in the cast-off shells of other ocean creature. These crabs are known as hermit crabs. Settling for safety, they retreat from the battle and escape into secondhand houses that are ready-made.

But hermit crabs’ “safe houses” prove to be costly and ruinous. Through their lack of struggle, crucial parts of their bodies deteriorate. Even their organs wither due to lack of use. Over time the hermit crab loses all power of motion, as well as vital parts needed for escape. These limbs simply fall off, leaving the crab out of danger but useless to do anything except exist.

Meanwhile, crabs that continued the struggle grow and flourish. Their five pairs of legs become meaty and strong from resisting the powerful tides. And they learn to hide from their predators by skillfully scuttling under rock formations.

Lately I’ve been wondering about decisions I need to make that could change my life, but I’m always of the attitude that things NEVER work out for me, so why bother?  So I hide in my cave and wave from a safe distance as life passes me by.  I realized though that this is not a good way to live, that I can’t be afraid of being disappointed to the point that I never bother taking risks anymore.  While I enjoy the comforts of my cave, sometimes I need a reminder every now and then to get out there, take a chance, and grab life by the horns.  The cave will still be there when I get back.

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Geeking out on keyboard covers for the iPad

I’m doing this merry go round thing where I’m trying to decide between 3 different keyboard covers for my iPad to sort of give it some Surface creds, making it easier to use as a blogging tool when I’m sipping my java chip frap at Starbucks like the manly studmeister that I am.

The thing that’s making this a harder decision than it should be is that I cover my iPad with a shell (made by Devicewear), while these keyboard covers generally require a naked iPad to fit properly.

I didn’t think I’d be able to find a solution to get around that, until I came across this clever video regarding the Logitech Ultrathin Keyboard which shows you how you can still combine the keyboard, smart cover AND shell for a workable solution:

Nice.  The only downside is this is the only popular keyboard cover that doesn’t have a backlight, which I kinda want, mostly because… well I’m snobby and want my backlight.  So  I’m also looking at the ZAGG ZAGGKeys Proplus (they couldn’t come up with a better name?) and the LUVVITT BACKLIT Ultrathin Keyboard.  I haven’t been able to find much evidence on whether they are still useable if you use a protective shell for the back of your iPad, so if anyone ever tried this combo, let me know how it worked out for you.

The LUVVITT does have a stand though, which theoretically might resolve the issue even if the iPad doesn’t neatly fit in the groove, but I haven’t been able to find one at Best Buy to try out yet, so for now it looks like it’ll be the Logitech for me.

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I think I need to trust Netflix’s rating system a little more…

So I’m going through my Netflix library and I see a John Cusack film (The Factory), but Netflix only rates it one and a half stars based on my preferences.  But I’m thinking, come on, it can’t be THAT bad, I mean it’s John Cusack.  How do you go wrong with John Cusack?

Yeah, it was that bad.  It was SO bad actually, that I went back to check and make sure it was really John Cusack who starred in this film, and not Nicholas Cage.  That’s how bad it was.

I did a nerdy thing on my blog

Attention, attention…

Before I go out and brave the 90+ heat to walk to the gym, just wanted to let y’all know I’ve added a cool but subtle new feature for commenters: when you paste a link from certain popular video/image/audio sites into your comment, the link will automatically convert accordingly into either the image or video/audio player.  Just make sure the link is on its own line and not hyperlinked, and if it’s one of the supported embeds, it will convert once you publish the comment (you can see a list of supported embeds here).

I did this to provide an easy way to add images in comments without drawing on using my internal media library (which would have gotten too messy).  So if you have libraries of funsie photos at sites like Photobucket, Flickr, etc. you’d like to share every now and then, have at it.  This new feature won’t be that patently obvious, but then again that’s the point, as only my regular commenters will realize they have the ability to do this (a not so subtle hint that you should comment here more often, tee hee.)

This announcement has been brought to you by my awesomeness, and the 80s:

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